God Bless Woman of God , this is our Domestic Violence Page!!
Solution In Christ Ministries was incorporated in 2007. God granted me the opportunity to survive a domestic violence situation. Married for about 10 years receiving abuse in the 5 stages of abuse. Have a beautiful daughter and God granted me the freedom that I needed. Most people asked how I did it. The only person who was able to deliver me from my abuse marriage was Jesus Christ the only man.
I want to give all the glory to God for granting me the opportunity to be free. The Lord restored me in the year of 2004. I decided to give my all to the Lord and devote myself to Christ and he started to work and change things in my life that needed to be healed in my heart. I will write a little bit about my testimony, and how the Lord healed my heart and I was able to restore my life and get married a second time.
At and early age the Lord called me to serve him in Spirit and in truth. Two years, of serving the Lord he baptized me with the Holy Ghost. The Lord granted me to teach as the assistant Sunday school teacher at the age of 11 years old and preach his word. I was baptized in the waters at the age of 14 years old, and at the age of 15 the Lord granted me to give several youth classes as well. He granted me the opportunity to study in a bible institute at the age of 16 years old and get the first diploma.
The turmoil of my life began at the age of 17 years old when I decided to leave the Lord and be a part of the world. I didn't realize that the decision that I had made was not the correct one, but all I cared was that I wanted to have fun. I took everything I had the Armor of God away, what I had his presence, his blessings, and his gift. Sometimes we made decisions without counting with the Lord, without counting with our parents because we become rebellious. Young person that is reading my testimony, do not go ahead of the Lord just wait in him. Everything in the world is not what it appears to be. Just wait in him, do not go to the world and make the decision I made because I didn't know how to wait.
Ecclesiastes 12: 1-8 1 Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them; 2 While the sun, or the light, or the moon, or the stars, be not darkened, nor the clouds return after the rain: 3 In the day when the keepers of the house shall tremble, and the strong men shall bow themselves, and the grinders cease because they are few, and those that look out of the windows be darkened, 4 And the doors shall be shut in the streets, when the sound of the grinding is low, and he shall rise up at the voice of the bird, and all the daughters of music shall be brought low; 5 Also when they shall be afraid of that which is high, and fears shall be in the way, and the almond tree shall flourish, and the grasshopper shall be a burden, and desire shall fail: because man goeth to his long home, and the mourners go about the streets: 6 Or ever the silver cord be loosed, or the golden bowl be broken, or the pitcher be broken at the fountain, or the wheel broken at the cistern. 7 Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it. 8 Vanity of vanities, saith the preacher; all is vanity.
I met my first husband at the age of 18 in a blind date. His sister was my friend and she suggested I went on a double date with her. I went out steady for two years and I decided to become rebellious with my parents. I decided to do what I wanted to, came home late. Out of anger I decided to tell my mother that I was no longer a virgin and that was the decision I made. According to her Christian beliefs, she decided to get me married in December 25, 1997 after I told her what I did 3 years later. She did not care to divorce me in 5 years. I wanted my mothers love and affection because she did not know how to show it. I felt that doing those things would bring her attention towards me. Her affection towards me was dry.
Sometimes to escape from reality we feel we make correct decisions, and then we realize we went right in to the lions den just like I did. Two months into my first marriage it was mid February in the year 1998 and a cold winter he decided to quit his job because he was tired of it. We were living with our in-laws and no money. The money I made was for us to eat. I decided to go back to college. In the year 1999 I got my Associates Degree in Computer Science.
The hardest year for me was in the year 1998 when all my abusive started. It got worst and worst. He started pinching me; mentally abusing me, emotionally abusing me, financially abusing me, psychologically and sexually abused me. He had an affair online. He abused me for that woman. At one time of my life he told me to leave.
Within the same year in August 1998 I had my first pregnancy. With his abuse I lost it. I went to the hospital almost dying losing a lot of blood. But even though I was a back slider the Lord protected me and gave me an opportunity. I almost needed a blood transfusion. My first husband apologized to me and I forgave him. In the month of October of that same year I became Pregnant of my second baby. Here I found out of the affair he had online with a woman who used drugs just like him. He would speak collect every day with her, he didn't care he would do it in front of him and he said I couldn't stop him.
On that day the woman called cursed at me and I remember him taking the phone away from me and he agreed that I was the curse. He went further in to the second stairs of our in-laws house. As I approached him to hang up the phone he kicked me in my belly and I fell down the stairs and felt under the table. I was already 14 weeks. I lost my second baby from him kicking me in the belly. The next morning I woke up and went to the doctor, and the doctor said I was losing my baby. I was afraid in telling the doctor that he kicked me in my belly. I went back home and there he was eating breakfast. I remember my father in law asking if I was fine. As soon as my in-law left outside he started talking to his cousin and completely ignored me. All he cares was about smoking his 20 dollars day addiction in a pipe.
As I approached the small bathroom that was next to the kitchen I became to feel my baby leave my body. Inside the bathroom I started to bleed and slowly I lost my baby, grabbed it in my hands fell on the floor and remember the baby’s pieces falling in the toilet. He came in the bathroom stating get up, get up. I could not get up from that floor. He didn’t feel guilty for kicking me in my belly the night before, and because of that incident I loosed my baby. On the ground I was and he didn’t care, he told his cousin please drive her to the hospital I will take my time I have to get ready. As I approached the hospital I would tell his cousin why, why me. There I go again a loose what I most wanted. I was crying going to the hospital. Where was my mother, my family they left me alone. She lived in the Bronx NY and I lived in Brooklyn, NY. She abandoned me for the first pregnancy and she did it for the second one. My mother said I had to pay my consequences.
In the hospital that day, Maimonides Medical Center in Brooklyn NY the doctor that took care of me earlier said to me you are back again. I had baby parts remaining still in my womb. He made me sign some paper work because I ate and the medication giving to me was dangerous. I decided to sign because he was still chilling in our house like he said. I went in the operating room and as they put me to sleep there I was gone. All I remember the nurse telling me we thought we lost you for a second there. I had died for about 20 minutes and they brought me back to life. All I remember was like a tunnel and clouds. He was outside waiting for me and I made the doctors and the nurse promise that he would never know what happen to me there.
In my testimony there were other types of abuse but I wanted to mention these. As time past I became pregnant again after the doctors stated I could no longer bare anymore children. The pregnancies caused a lot of damages in my uterus inside I was no longer to conceive again. But I believe in a powerful God and he granted me the opportunity to have a beautiful daughter with my batterer in which she is today 10 years old.
Today, I am completely healed from the abuse and the Lord granted me to graduate from college, have a beautiful daughter which the Lord gave me her name from 1 Samuel 23 her name is Keila in Spanish and Keilah in English like the city the Lord protected from the Philistines.
He granted me a new husband. I was divorced in the year 2005 and which my papers were granted in 2007 because they lost them and the judge kept them. I got married in May 9, 2008 the day before Mothers day and freed from Domestic Violence, waiting in the Lord for another child and because a full time Pastor in November 5, 2009 to Christian Center and Church Solution in Christ Ministries (SIC) Inc. Our P.O.Box is 192 Bronx NY 10472 under Solution In Christ Ministries (SIC) Inc. Pastor: Michelle J. Rivera-Maldonado and Evangelist Humberto Maldonado.
My testimony is very long, but if I say everything that happens I can never finish writing. My abuse lasted me from 1998 to 2004 when I said enough. I was healed in 2005 for Gods glory, honor and power. He was the only one who delivered me.
Pastor Michelle (SIC)